“I just want to feel good. What do I need right now? What can I do to feel good, or even just better?” These are words I often say to myself if I’m feeling any element of not totally awesome.
I know I talk a lot about having to feel our feelings—all of our feelings—and it’s important. I believe in order to live full, conscious, intentional lives, we have to be willing to sit with all of our emotions—including the incredibly painful, heavy, dark, scary ones. We even, at times, have to be willing to dive deep down into them, because that’s how we’ll learn from, and release them.⠀
But I also believe we inherently want to feel good. And, it’s okay to acknowledge it. It’s okay to understand that when we’re feeling badly, we want to feel better. It’s okay to admit that we enjoy—and even prefer—feeling good.⠀
The key, though, is to allow it all. We can know that we want to feel good, while allowing ourselves to feel whatever we’re feeling. We can let ourselves feel negative emotions, and inquire into why we’re feeling them, while still understanding that we want to feel better. And we can reach for relief, while still allowing for our present moment experience.⠀
It doesn’t have to be either/or. Nothing has to be black or white.⠀
We can allow it to be everything.⠀
We have great, big, expansive space inside for all of it.
P.S. Here are the things that usually make me feel better when I’m not feeling totally awesome: caffeine, nature, some form of exercise, good music, meditation, or a hot shower. I’m sure there’s more, but this is all I can think of right now.
What do you do to feel better when you’re not feeling totally awesome?