How to Get our Egos to Work With and For Us

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Our ego selves are the parts of us that like to judge. They’re dualistic, which means they operate from a space of separation. Black or white; good or bad; better or worse; superior or inferior; right or wrong; this or that; desirable, undesirable; can, can’t; possible, impossible; realistic, unrealistic. This is limiting, because the deeper, core truth of everything that is (and isn’t) is interconnectedness, all-ness, and oneness. We are inherently one with all that is, was, and ever will be. The perception of separation creates a veil of illusion. Our egos feel limiting, because they operate within the space of that illusion.⠀

They’re fear-driven and want to avoid pain, trauma, and anything that feels like a threat to self (itself, the ego self). They want to keep us safe, but because they operate from a space of fear (which stems from separation and, thus, illusion), their ideas and tendencies are inherently limiting.⠀

But there is a part of us that is beyond the ego. It’s the part of us that’s capable of noticing it. Watching it. Observing it. Examining it.⠀

Once we become aware of the ego, we’re separate from it. And once we’re separate, we can learn how to work with it. We can learn from it. And we can learn how to get it to work for us, rather than unwittingly being controlled by it. Sure, it’ll slip in and want to assert itself at times, but we can notice this attempt...and even get to the point where it makes us laugh. It doesn’t have to be such a serious thing.⠀

Our ego selves can teach us things. The fears, pain, and discomfort we feel, point us to things within us that we’re meant to inquire into, energy that’s meant to clear. It doesn’t feel good when our egos assert themselves, but it doesn’t have to be something we resist or judge ourselves for, because shame, guilt, and self-judgement are all a part of the ego’s game—to keep us trapped in the illusory web of ignorance and confusion.⠀

We’re inseparable from our egos, but we’re also separate from them. When we can softly pay attention to the ego without identifying with it, we can learn how to work with it. We can even train it, tame it, and guide it, to work with and for us.