To move throughout the world with love and self-confidence we need to be able to accept, and playfully embrace our less-fun, less-desirable characteristics (see my post from last week), but we also need to be able to love and appreciate our wonderful qualities. We should want to know that there are things we love about ourselves, and we should want to fully embrace them.
Here are 10 things I really, really love about myself. I hope this list inspires you to think about the things you really, really love about yourself too.
1. I’m a really good dancer.
I may be tone deaf, but I’ve got rhythm. I’ve always loved dancing, and I’ve always known that I’m good at it. I cannot do anything choreographed (the one time I tried in college was a massive debacle), but if you were to see me at a wedding, you’d have no idea what to do with yourself. I’m that good.
I dance when I’m cooking, cleaning, watering the flowers, walking down the street, and when I’m alone in my room. Sometimes, I even pause my workout to dance when a really good song comes on, because I literally can’t help myself.
2. I find great joy in simple things and I appreciate everything.
The wind, the sun, a good song, hearing the sounds of birds chirping, eating a banana with peanut butter, a long afternoon nap, a good cup of coffee, a refreshing glass of water, an effortless trip to the grocery store, lying in bed comfortably wrapped in my comforter, listening to rain outside my window, my Sunday phone calls with my dad, hearing children giggle, and getting a random stranger to smile at me when I’m out on a walk.
I move into and emphasize all of this stuff—anything and everything I can feel grateful for—because it makes living life feel so wonderful.
3. I’m always open to different ideas, opinions, and perspectives.
I can see multiple sides to every story, and I actively try to understand how different people are feeling. I genuinely want to know and understand.
I also love having my thoughts and beliefs challenged—I like being forced to consider different ways of thinking about things I’ve taken for granted as automatic truths (things that have always felt obvious to me). Because nothing is ever that obvious if we really take the time to think about it. I remember several moments in college when I felt like my mind was blown right open with a concept I’d never considered. I love that feeling.
4. I’m willing to admit when I’m wrong or when I’ve made a mistake.
I don’t love being wrong, and I’m not fond of feeling like I’ve made a mistake, but I’m always willing to admit it.
It’s also easy for me to apologize. Maybe not right in the moment (if I’m feeling particularly self-righteous about something). But, later on, after reflecting on it (which I’ll always do), I’ll apologize if it feels right.
5. I’m self-aware.
I know my thought patterns—the typical thoughts I think—and even the kinds of situations that will prompt certain thoughts to pop into my head. I know what I’m feeling when I’m feeling it, and, if it’s something negative, I’m really good at discerning what I need to come out of it. I can also easily see when I’m being totally ridiculous, and even if I can’t find a way to let go of it in the moment, I’ll at least watch and understand what’s happening.
6. My beautiful eyes and my beautiful hair.
These are two characteristics I’ve always felt confident in, even when I was rolling around in insecurities throughout adolescence.
7. I’m sensitive and empathetic.
I feel deeply and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I can’t imagine being any other way. Yes, it means when I hurt, I hurt. But it’s who I am. And, I love it. It’s also why I think I can experience so much joy in my joyous moments—because, I can move into all of that too.
I’m also good at understanding how other people are feeling. I’m a good listener, but I’m even better at paying attention to what’s not being said—what’s happening beneath the words. I can know what someone else is feeling without them saying anything at all, which, I believe, allows me to be more compassionate.
8. I’m really smart.
I’m naturally intelligent, but I also love learning. I feel my most fulfilled when I’m challenging myself in new ways—when I’m actively in the process of learning something new.
9. I’m always looking for the positive in every situation.
I believe that there’s a positive within every experience, even if it doesn’t feel particularly positive in the moment. I’m always asking myself: What’s the opportunity here? What’s the lesson? What can I learn? What does this mean? How can I use this? And, where can I go from here?
And, even if I don’t know in the moment—even if all I can see, or feel, is the hard, heavy, dark stuff—I know I’ll figure it out at some point.
10. I’m introverted.
When I was younger, I thought something was wrong with me, because I wasn’t as outgoing as my sister, but once I learned to own and embrace this quality, it became one of my favorite characteristics. I’m rarely bored, I’m easily entertained, and I adore spending time with myself. I’m also pensive, contemplative, and a deep thinker. And, I only speak, when I feel like I have something to say. And, I love this about myself.
What about you? What are some things you love about yourself? What are some of your favorite qualities?